Why do millions of dollars go to authors who compose about finding happiness or being happy? The truth is that not countless people are happy. Are you one of those who are not happy?

Recently, a survey was set up towards discovering the happiest people on the earth. Why would resources be pumped into discovering that sort of information unless the state of being happy was demanding to progress to?

You surely don’t have to join those who are in a continuous state of unhappiness. Being happy is all about deciding that you want to be happy. It is not a state that is automatically attained. To be happy and really so, you should adhere to the following:

• Acceptance: Most of our emotions that are negative in nature stem from frictions that arise as a consequence of social interactions. Most a times, friction in relationships ensue whenever there is an endeavor to change someone into your ideal image of how you want the person to be. To be happy, you should learn to accept people the way they are and actually appreciate their differences.

• Avoid bad news: Don’t be like other people who can’t move a leg without getting an idea about what’s going on in the world. In case you haven’t noticed, news these days is bad news and that can be a real mood damper.

• Be grateful: Be thankful for small things such as getting home safely or having a house of rowdy children. When you adopt a thankful attitude, not much can get you down.

• Get in touch with your spirituality: The happiest people in the world are those who are in touch with their spirit nature. Being a member of a religious group can go a long way in helping you live a happier balanced life. You can’t be happy unless you choose to be.

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Happiness is a mindset that only you can control. By taking action one step at a time, you can help identify different ways that can make you feel happy. Sometimes you just need to remember what it feels like to be happy. That being said, is being happy really overrated? What do you think?

Also read about emotional freedom therapy, as it has helped lots of people to become truly happy.

You know, I get a lot of dating questions from guys wondering why the heck girls dress so hot to go out, go to a bar, whatever, but then seem SO unapproachable and aloof. It’s like she has dressed herself all up just to say, “Look, but you can’t touch!” Have you ever felt that way?

Did you realize, though, that if you want to give dating tips for men, you have to actually learn to think like a chic? It’s scary, man, not everyone can go there. But I have a good therapist.

Anyway, from a woman’s perspective, an attractive chic does not really need to dress up to get a guy’s attention. However, it makes her FEEL good to do so, to look her best, and let’s admit it, guys – to look better than the other girls there. Sometimes you feel like you are in a lioness’ den when you walk into a place like that, where all the beautiful girls are either in a group – or trying to pretend the others don’t exist.

Ok – so let’s quickly go through a couple of the real reasons girls do that.

First - any chic wants to increase her assets. She wants to be of a higher quality, in order to attract the highest quality guy. She wants that Alpha Male who can do all the right things for her – protect her, provide for her, make her feel the way she wants to feel, etc.

Second, she wants to crush the competition. Hot girls are COMPETITIVE. They know the location of every other babe in the room, they know what she has her beat in and what the other chic posses that she wants. It’s like a pack of she-wolves circling, except it’s all done without teeth baring and snarling. Usually.

Third – she want to get the most attention and approval. It’s true – they want attention – like little kids. They look aloof and unapproachable because they are actually, underneath, insecure and don’t want to get hurt, and hoping the right guy will approach them.

Do you want to be the right guy? Do you realize that choice is not made because of how you look?

Do you understand how this all has to do with basic human evolution and the need for the species to survive?

Look at it like this. I am sure you have heard of Darwin’s theory the “survival of the fittest”. It means the animals with the best genes reproduce. The weak ones get killed. The species evolves stronger and more intelligent with each generation.

So when you look at the attention an attractive chic wants, it is, in the basest of terms, her way of projecting her worthiness to carry on the genes, to be selected. Do you see what I am getting at? She wants to be the Alpha Female.

So if YOU, as a guy, want to hook up with the Alpha Female – guess who you gotta be? Right. The Alpha Male. Now, one more question. What does the Alpha Female ALWAYS get from men? Attention. What does she want? Attention. What do you need to give her?

If you said attention, smack yourself in the head.

If you’re a beautiful chic who is always getting attention and approval from men and you meet a guy who DOESN’T give you that attention and approval, it has an INSTANT and POWERFUL impact.

Furthermore, if the guy you’re interacting with actively AVOIDS giving you attention… and gives you DISAPPROVAL, it can have the effect of instantly SCRAMBLING YOUR SYSTEMS.

Again, attractive girls don’t meet a lot of guys that could care less about her beauty. If you want to learn how to ATTRACT these “unusually beautiful” girls, then you need to get a clue about what creates the idea in her mind that YOU are one of the most “desirable” men.

And how can you do that? A. Is it hitting the lottery and becoming a millionaire? B. Getting plastic surgery to look like John Cena? Or possibly learning to trigger the ATTRACTION in her?

I personally like the third one myself. You?

Here’s the interesting thing about triggering attraction that I LOVE. Once you do it, once you get it right, she cannot help herself. I mean, can you? When you are really attracted to someone, can you turn it off? Nope.

Ok, shut up and tell me how to do this, right? Right. Ok- get into her head. You are GORGEOUS, every guy in there wants to buy you a drink, give you a compliment, and throw his coat on the puddle for you to walk over. Gag. It gets old. So – you meet a guy who doesn’t offer you a drink. Maybe he even asks HER to buy him a drink. He bust on her, tells her how weird her shoes are says something like, “That is the UGLIEST DRESS I have ever seen!” in a fun and teasing way. (Don’t spit on it or anything dude, ok?). Have you heard of Cocky Funny? That’s what that basically is. This is a fantastic way to mean girls that David Deangelo developed in his first eBook, Double Your Dating.

What are you? You are not impressed by her beauty. You are not groveling at her feet. You are not showing her that you are attracted to her. In fact – you are testing HER.

“Hmmmm…” she thinks. “That’s different!” And pretty soon, SHE starts feeling attraction toward YOU because you are showing her that you are the ALPHA MALE and you are ABOVE her. If she wants you, she’s gotta work for it. And she NEVER has to work for it. So now she wants it.

Are you following me?

Good. This is the first step toward becoming that Alpha Male that you need to be. I can’t tell you everything there is about it in one short article, but I do have some recommendations for you for further study. Go check out David Deangelo’s Double Your Dating eBook (Dude, it’s the best $20 you will ever spend) or his Cocky Funny program. These are priceless if you want to learn to beat gorgeous girls at their own game.

It has been a few years since we saw the secret movie hit our screens and we now see that so many people are excited and still talking about the use of the law of attraction as well as how the law of attraction is acting everyday to affect our lives and the outcomes that we see on a daily, weekly, monthly and annual basis. Those of us who are really interested in goal setting and making sure our lives movie forward as we desire will continue to research into the law of attraction and how we can make use of it.

In conjunction with the law of attraction we can make use of the principles taught in the secret movie to give real and true direction to what we want to achieve in our lives. It is clear that if any of us gets down to grips with being completely clear about that which we want in our lives, program that picture into our subconscious minds and then let our subconscious move us forward by habit force to where it is that we really want to be. All who want to take control of their lives should get to grips with and learn all they can about the law of attraction.

We have all been told that we need to get intensely involved in goal setting and many people out there stop at that point. We could say that there are various levels to goal setting and when we get down into dealing with the law of attraction and the subconscious mind this could be termed as getting into the advanced levels of personal development.

When we work on our personal development then we see benefits in various areas of our life including increased self confidence and self esteem and then we become able to move forward unstoppably to being the kinds of people that we wish to be based on our confidence and self esteem. We can tell the people around us who are full of self confidence, they seem to walk with a certain amount of surety about them and for some reason other people want to be around them in order to learn from them and to somehow become more and more like them.

When we are dealing with personal development we can see how all things hang together and how the level of our positive words feeds directly into how we program our subconscious minds in order to create the lives that we picture in our minds eye. All we need to is to keep focused on that which we want, keep the level of our positive affirmations high and then move forward with our lives.

What does that life look like? What do you see, hear, smell and feel in your perfect life? creating achievement Have you forgotten your dreams, maybe a childhood dream or something that you have been longing to do for years? I want to challenge you to spend the next 30 days (and beyond) entertaining and creating the achievement of your dreams. Why, because you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

In our daily lives, we forget to look beyond the trees into the forest. We get lost in the daily details of schedules and to-do lists and no longer have the time to look up at our dreams. You can have everything you want in life if you are willing to do what it takes.

What are you passionate about, what do you truly love? Can you take what you love and turn it into something you do every day, something that you can make a living at? If you are willing to step outside the box and look at it from every angle, you can find a way. We spend more time every day working than we do with our family, friends, probably sleeping or taking care of ourselves. That time could be spent doing something we really love!
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Become a dream creator today. Select just one of your dreams and accept that you choose whether it becomes a reality or not. Which means you must believe in yourself. Believe that you have the ability and commitment to make it happen. Emerson said, “Be yourself; no base imitation of another, but your best self. There is something which you can do better than another. Listen to the inward voice and bravely obey that. %Creator of Dreams% Do the things at which you are great, not what you were never made for.” Wow, if you think about those words they are incredible. What are you waiting for?
Take responsibility for your life. If you are not enjoying what you have created, look within, listen to your intuition and create something new. Do you possess all of the skills and knowledge to create what you want or do you need to take a class, read a book, or find a mentor? Be prepared to do whatever it takes to achieve your dreams.

Visualize yourself as successful in what you are creating. And remember that the opportunities to create what you want may not look exactly as you have imagined. So be open minded and alert to opportunities.

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Finally, make a commitment to yourself to make your dreams come true. This means you may have to change your thinking and behavior. No more negative self talk. Use positive affirmations or visuals if you need to. Act as if you have already achieved what you want. And never give up. You have made a commitment to yourself to create your dreams.

When I decided I wanted to become a coach I thought it would be a few years before I could even begin my training. However, if you want something badly enough you figure out a way, I climbed outside of the box. I bartered marketing and web design for my tuition. I began calling myself a coach before I ever had my first client. I put up my website and began writing my newsletter before I began my training. And that was 8 years ago. I made my dream a reality.

We don’t know what tomorrow holds for us, so we can’t afford to wait. Don’t get caught in your everyday routine, take time for yourself and become a Creator of Dreams.

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Challenge 1. Take out a sheet of paper and write down just one of your dreams. Now what can you do this very moment to take action? Write it down 2. What can you do tomorrow, and the next day? Make a plan, it doesn’t have to be complicated, you can take tiny steps but do something to move yourself a little closer to your dream.

Read also about emotional freedom technique - it helped many people to find their inner self.

I don’t think there’s any person who isn’t at least a bit scared of their boss. I think the feeling comes from the mutual respect you have for the person, considering that he has the power to make or break your profession. If you’re suddenly caught in a situation where you actually have to sit and dine with your superior, you need to know the right tips to keep your cool and look composedthroughout. You can get points and credits by being proper.

1. Appear professional. This is the time I usually dress to impress, even if I’m eating with a person of the same sex. Try to put on something proper and orderly, but avoid very attractive wear that tend to make your boss look underdressed. I suggest knowing exactly where you’re supposed to have lunch or dinner then wearing the appropriate attire. If you’re going out for lunch on a work day, you can just wear whatever you have. If changing for dinner, you may just replace your tie or shirt, but use the same coat.

Make subtle statements that you are very professional and competitive, such as flashing your Personalized business card holder or always having a pen and organizer ready. Carry yourself well by standing straight, practicing dining etiquette and smiling as necessary.

2. Communicate. I think dinner with your boss is almost like having a dinner date with a girl you met for the first time. I’m saying that you need to know how to listen. Your boss always has something to tell you for gatheringslike these so keep your ears open and embrace sage advice. Listen, then respond. If your boss asks you something, that’s the time you give an opinion. I recommend not being completely honest that might give the impression that you do not like your job, but giving a straight answer.

Conversations do not need to revolve around work only. You can talk about anything such as the last movie you watched, family, Engraved flasks, etc. If you’re dining for social reasons, you can relax a bit but be careful about jokes and being too abrasive. Just try to feel what your boss is suggesting for the topic, then follow through.

3. No bribes. Remember that your boss may be having dinner with you to assess your attitude, competence or just to get to know you better. Avoid giving gifts or any material item that might present you as sucking up to him. The best thing you can offeris a compliment.
Maintain a professional tone throughout the evening, even if your boss may loosen up a little from a few drinks. Avoid some bad behaviorlike keeping on checking your Engraved pocket watches or going back and forth to the men’s room. Always appear like you’re interested and call it a night when your boss does. When you get back to work, do not seem like you’re the favorite and keep that professional attitude always. Your boss will appreciate you more for your efforts and tact.

Compulsive shoppers always have a hard time saving. You may discovertoo late that there are more important things to save for than a beautiful car or a classy suit. Saving also doesn’t mean never spending on anything nice you see at the window. It takes some discipline and consistency if you want to see long term results. The training will also help you become more capable of handling money well. Here are some tips.

1. On what to bring. I recommend bringing only enoughmoney for food and transportation when you plan on going to the mall or department store. This way, you can window shop all you want without the danger of spending unthinkingly. You should also leave your credit cards at home, or better yet, cut them to pieces. The use of credit cards is a very dangerous and expensive habit, since you’re spending money you do not have. It is vital that you always set the right mind when going for a walkanywhere.

2. Credit card tips. You may keep up to a maximum of 2 credit cards at a time. Make sure you also have a list on what to use these for. Credit cards should only be used as a lastresort, or for planned spending. You can allocate a certain amount to be paid via credit such as your groceries, a Leather wine carrier or house mortgage. Do not use the cards for any other reason. If you find yourself spending via credit, pay it right away with cash. When paying for your cards, always pay the totalamount to avoid the growing interest. You are putting yourself at risk for bad credit standing by not planning ahead.

3. Give yourself time. If you want to buy anything or are drawnto something on the window, try to fit and see how the item looks on you. Afterwards, return it to the saleslady and give yourself one or two nights to think about your decision. If after 2 days you no longer feel the inclination to buy, then let it pass. However, if you still feel the need to purchase, allocate some funds for it when you receive your income or after you pay your dues.

It is equally important to reward yourself once in a while by buying a number of things, such as brand new Stainless steel flask. This will keep you sane. However, you should make sure that the item falls within your budget. Never spend more than what you can afford. You can searchthrough other sources, including the internet, to find better deals and prices.

4. Find a partner. You can look for someone who has the same dilemmato help you delay on purchases. Having a friend nearby can act as your conscience whether you really need the item for now or not. Those Flasks may look priceless, but I’m very sure your partner can make you feel otherwise. Continue bringing a friend along while window shopping until you can independently manage your spending habits.

It was only a few years ago when I realized how important self-esteem and confidence really are. Having a good feeling about yourself can reflect in the way you speak, act and think, which is why more opportunities can come. You also createa special aura that evokes a positive sensation with others around you. You can greatly improve your social life, mental awareness and physical health by following these few guidelines.

1. Create a routine. Making a routine can help you become more aware about the situations around. You get to look forward tothings that are about to happen and prepare for these very well. Staying ready all the time can be to your advantage, and can help in boosting your ego. Start to write down things you do regularly and inject other appointments that truly matter, such as big business meetings, presentations, family dinners, etc.

2. Start feeling healthier. Begin an exercise and diet program that is both realistic and attainable. Try to set small objectives over a span of 3 to 6 months then view your progress over the weeks by taking pictures and writing a log. You may want to hide your zippos for a while and minimize or quit the habit entirely to feel better. You will find that eating healthier, going to the gym and sleeping in adequate periods can make you feel healthier and leaner, thereby leading to more confidence.

3. Reward yourself. I make it a point to buy myself things or treat myself to an priceydinner at least once a month. Regardless of the size or price, the objective is to view yourself as a worthy and hardworking individual who deserves good things in life. I bought myself a colibri last weekend. Touching it inside my pocket is enough to make me cheery. You can even take a step further by getting zippos.

4. Reward others. Although you may think that gaining confidence is about getting things for yourself only, you will like the sensationof giving to others. Sharing is a great ego-booster and gives you the sense of generosity and kindness that leads to a stable social well-being. I hand out personalized zippos to people like my colleagues, my boss, my brothers and neighbors, even without a special occasion. Take time to reflect and give back for all your blessings.

5. Talk to yourself. Always give yourself your much needed rest and relaxation at least 10 to 15 minutes daily. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are a beautiful, bountifuland good person. Meditate and listen to soothing music to relax your senses. Go for a massage, watch a movie or just watch the night sky. Enjoy the silence and tell yourself about all the good qualities that you have. List down the things that you consider your strengths. It can help to find another individual whom you can exchange compliments with regularly. I recommend someone who has a very positive mentality. The transition can take anywhere between a few days to several weeks, depending on your response.

You may notice that not everything you buy in supermarkets gets consumed at the right time. In fact, I personally discover a lot of rotten things in the fridge that I never actually knew I had or bought. You will like the idea of boosting your savings by ensuring that your fridge inventory is in place. You should only buy what you can finish. There are several approaches on how you can prevent spoilage.

1. Do your inventory. Before heading to the grocery store, make sure that you check all items inside the refrigerator first. Check the type, quantity and expiry date. Make sure you consume items that are expectedto spoil soon. You should also check things that are about to run out. You can assess different brands, so you can increase your savings by finding the right alternatives. Stick the inventory on your fridge door where you can stay alerted.

List down your grocery list after the inventory and only purchasethe right amount that will fit within the week or until your next grocery shopping. At this point, you may want to stay away from the shelves near the cashier, especially those cool and tempting Laser pointers. Adjust your list accordingly by searching for the right places to shop.

2. Set a schedule. Identify the days of the month when you’re supposed to go shopping for food items. I find it most effective to go to the supermarket 2 times a month. That way, I can assess the rightitems. I also discovered that some items are consumed accordingly in 2 weeks such as 2 egg crates, my tub of ice cream and a bag of ground meat.

Set your grocery time during non-peak hours, so you have time to select and assess different food types and items. You also get to avail of complete stocks, instead of being forced to get a pricier kind just to get away from the crowd. You may also want to avail of promo periods and items on sale. This can enhance your savings significantly.

3. Be open for new opportunities. You should always be on the lookout for the best places or sources to get food items. You can write down new places behind your Engraved business card holder. You do not have to go only to one place to gather all the things. There may be some stores on the way back to your house where you can picka few stuff out for more savings. This practice also helps me get added exercise since I’m forced to walk on the way.

The internet is also a good basisof food items, complete with all the selections and types according to your preference. You can now get fresh goods straight from the other side of the world in a matter of days. These are also quite affordable and will be delivered right to your doorstep. Who knows? You may be rewarded a free Business card holder for the effort.

So many people remain to be in the middle class or poor, simply because they do not understand their lifestyle or do not know how to take control over their financial lives. It is greatly important to movethe bar according to your needs, with some comfort, and you may just find that it is easier to become financially free for the rest of your life. You do not even need to win the lottery or earn millions to do this. Here are some ways.

1. Your expenses should be managed. Do you recallthe time when you were still in high school and you only had your parents’ money to rely on to buy food, clothes and maybe some night out fun? When you got a job, your expenses relatively also grew, since you did not realize that some of the items used to be out of your league when you still weren’t earning. Now you can easily spendon a Groomsman gift. If you learn how to instill that type of attitude today, you may discover how rich you already are compared years ago.

People should learn how to lower their expense bar to manage their needs and a few wants on a daily basis. You will notice that your choice of restaurants, clothes, cars and neighborhood is immediately correlated to your current income. Try to continue earning bigger, but avoid heightening your expense bar. You will have bigger savings in the end and you will also realize that life hasn’t become that much harder after all.

2. Your income ceiling. Never put a ceiling on your potential wealth. The poor and middle class are wired to immediately spend extra income, while the rich are trained to reinvest the surplus to gain more. Poor and middle class individuals actually do not know that they feel uncomfortable holdinga lot of money, compelling them to buy a new car, a new Liquor flask, a new house and everything else that will lower their total wealth within comfortable range.

Stay put and continue to reinvest to the millions if possible. It may take some time before you get used to the huge amounts of money entering your account. Always be frugal in your spending and try to find more ways to grow the money. There is no limitto your income if you allow it. It requires the right mind set to handle the cash that rich people have. You may want to get Engravable cufflinks to remind you how hands are so quick to picking out money for spending.

3. Think rich. Learn how to stick to rich people and learn how they think and use their money. It is unfair to immediately assume that rich people are arrogant and bad investors. In fact, they are masters of making money and are among the most generous and friendliest persons in the world once you get to know them. Take time to listen to sage advice. Rich people usually are more than willing to share their secrets. You can also boostyour financial knowledge by reading more, browsing through web sites and joining forums about business and investing.

Do you believe in the universal law of attraction? I do. And I believe that you can have everything you’ve ever dreamed of instantly. Ask, and the universe will provide. It’s quite astonishinghow I never realized people had this much power only by asking. You need to start with an optimistic attitude and maintain a personality that will truly bring you wealth, love and happiness for many years to come.

1. Starting within. You should start drawing good events and items to yourself by thinking positive. Tell yourself that you are a confidentindividual capable of drawing anything you desire. I think that money or material possession is the first thing that people usually want to draw. Envision that you are bound to be rich. Think of yourself as a money magnet and always be thankful for every small opportunity that helps you get richer.

I admit that I have a lot now, but I still make it a point to pick up anything that looks like money, even if it’s just a dime, Flasks or a penny. I tell the world “Thank you” and think of myself as a money magnet. Opportunities for getting wealth will soon ensueas you constantly believe that you never run out of money. I advise that you set a bar for your current cash, so that your money never runs lower than that.

2. Drawing opportunities. Opportunities come in the form of events, accidents and people. You can drawmore opportunities by assessing each situation and asking for a positive response each time. When I’m browsing through the Mens wallets section of a department store, I take time to talk to salespeople, cashiers and other guests. You will be surprised as to how many opportunities can follow. Remember that fortune doesn’t only come in the form of money. There are relationships that can be nurtured and friendships to build. You can even draw positive vibrations within your family.

3. Maintaining the attitude. There are times when you feel that things may still be moving too slow or that opportunities tend to stay away from you, even though you’re only asking for an Engraved money clip. The important thing is that you continue to believe that the universe will provide immediately. If you even think that, ‘I think it will happen in 5 years’ or ‘I don’t deserve that kind of fortune’, then the world will only quickly reply, “Your wish is my command”. Always stay focused and positive about your goals.

It will be inevitable to experience problems more than the usual. It is vital that you continue to maintain a healthy attitude about these and tell the world that you will find a solution. You can permanently eliminate problems as long as you stick to your goalsand believe that you are in control and you can get whatever you like for life. If you need more help, you can rely on other people who are also positive about their situation. Ask for encouragement and get back on track.